I'm a female breadwinner - this is how I saved my marriage

I'm a female breadwinner - this is how I saved my marriage I'm a female breadwinner - this is how I saved my marriage

A Tennessee entrepreneur worried that the bond between her and her husband would break after they learned during a tax meeting that she was making significantly more money than he was.

Amy Porterfield, 47, spoke with Business Insider earlier this month about her marriage to her husband Hobie, and how being the breadwinner didn't destroy their relationship, but required some adjustments for both of them.

The entrepreneur is a writer, online marketing expert, and founder of Amy Porterfield, Inc. who moved to Nashville with her husband three years ago.

After the two of them relocated, Amy and her husband who she referred to as 'a true alpha male' decided it would be best if he retired.

Difficulties arose from Hobie's early retirement, but the businesswoman told Business Insider that it ultimately strengthened and saved their marriage.

Before Hobie's big career move, he was a general contractor working to become a firefighter in California.

Amy was the director of content development for Anthony Robbins Companies in San Diego, where she worked for nearly seven years.

The entrepreneur explained to Business Insider that she was inspired to call her own shots after Anthony brought internet marketers into a meeting.

She noticed the entrepreneurs in the meeting were determining their work hours and had creative freedom, which is what she wanted.

Amy created a business plan, and in 2009, she founded Amy Porterfield, Inc. - a social media consultancy where she is the CEO and host of the podcast, Online Marketing Made Easy with Amy Porterfield.

The entrepreneur confirmed to Business Insider that she began making more money than she expected two years after founding the consultancy.

Amy's goal in starting the firm was to earn money her way and not be the breadwinner for Hobie and her stepson.

She realized her business's growth success during its third year in operation and eventually began making more money than Hobie.

Amy discovered that she made more money than Hobie during a tax meeting with their accountant.

The online marketing expert told Business Insider that their accountant shared her and Hobie's yearly salaries and that she surpassed her husband.

As a firefighter, Hobie had made $100,000 a year, while Amy made $1 million in revenue during the third year her business's operation.

Hobie assured Amy that he was proud of her for having such a high income, but felt weird to know she was making more money than him.

Amy's salary continued to be higher than Hobie's over the years, and he supported and congratulated her on her success without hesitation.

Once the couple moved to Nashville, they had a serious conversation about Hobie's future, which led to his retirement.

Amy told Business Insider that she could move anywhere with her job, but Hobie's career wasn't as flexible.

Tennessee is required to recognize firefighter certificates that were issued by an entity accredited by either the International Fire Service Accreditation Congress or the National Board of Professional Qualifications, according to the Tennessee Department of Commerce & Insurance.

Despite this rule, Amy said that Hobie would've still needed to move up the ranks all over again at another firehouse.

The couple eventually decided that it would be best for him to retire early, and Amy told Business Insider that she supported the decision more than Hobie at first.

Hobie had a hard time adjusting to a life of retirement, uncomfortable with the idea of not making money to provide for their family.

He also had trouble with the idea of not having a job that gave him a purpose, which made Amy fear that her husband would resent her for the decision.

Amy was honest with Hobie about her fear, which led the couple to create guidelines on what to do about his retirement.

While the entrepreneur is the breadwinner who makes the money, Hobie is the man who manages the household and manages their personal lives.

Hobie regularly does things such as running errands, lawn work, laundry, and making appointments.

He's also in charge of vehicle maintenance and managing contractors and renovations.

He and Amy still manage their investments and retirement accounts together while he pays the bills. Last year, she raked in a whopping $20 million for their family, and published a self-help book for aspiring entrepreneurs.

Amy revealed to Business Insider that she was occasionally jealous of Hobie's free time during a stressful workday.

However, she always loved that he would say, 'How can I make this easier for you? What do you need from me?' whenever the stress would get to her.

Amy's business currently has 23 full-time employees, many of whom are women.

The entrepreneur, who is also the author of Two Weeks Notice: Find the Courage to Quit Your Job, Make More Money, Work Where You Want, and Change the World, told Business Insider that she is 'an example of a lifestyle many women might not think is possible for them.'

When it comes to her relationship with her husband, she insists that communication has been the key to them maintaining their strong connection as their household roles have evolved.

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